Kevin DeYoung stellt (hier) fest, dass er in seinem Dienst auf viele heiratswillige Frauen trifft, die verzweifelt nach einem Mann Ausschau halten.
I have met scores of godly young women nearby and far away who wonder “Where have all the marriageable men gone?” More and more commentators–Christian or otherwise–are noticing a trend in young men; namely, that they don’t seem to be growing up. Recently, William Bennett’s CNN article “Why Men Are in Trouble” has garnered widespread attention. The point of the post is summarized in the final line: “It’s time for men to man up.” Sounds almost biblical (1 Corinthians 16:13).
Das Bild, das viele (christliche) Männer abgeben, ist nicht eben das beste:
There’s a difference between a down-on-his-luck fella charging hard to make something out of himself and a guy who seems content to watch movies, make enough to eat frozen pizzas in a one room apartment, play Madden, watch football 12 hours on Saturday, show up at church for an hour on Sunday and then go home to watch more football.
Sind denn diese Ansprüche überzogen?
They just want a guy with some substance. A guy with plans. A guy with some intellectual depth. A guy who can winsomely take initiative and lead a conversation. A guy with consistency. A guy who no longer works at his play and plays with his faith. A guy with a little desire to succeed in life. A guy they can imagine providing for a family, praying with the kids at bedtime, mowing the lawn on Saturday, and being eager to take everyone to church on Sunday. Where are the dudes that will grow into men?
Was in der Kirche Singles nicht ständig um die Ohren gehauen werden sollte, fasst im nächsten Beitrag eine Kommentatorin auf Kevins Blog feinfühlig zusammen:
- “I keep praying for someone to come along for you.”
- “I don’t know why no young man hasn’t scooped you up and carried you off yet.”
- “You should move somewhere where there are more young men, or maybe go to a church with more single people.”
- “Have you ever thought about online dating?”
- “Don’t you want to get married and have children?”